This PR fixes a long standing bug where submitting jobs with changes
to connect services would not trigger updates as expected. Previously,
service blocks were not considered as sources of destructive updates
since they could be synced with consul non-destructively. With Connect,
task group services that have changes to their connect block or to
the service port should be destructive, since the network plumbing of
the alloc is going to need updating.

Fixes #8596 #7991

Non-destructive half in #7192